I've noticed that the way that I like to communicate with people is not in a large group but rather 1 on 1. I am trying my hardest to learn how to adapt to a group setting because it is inevitable that I will end up in one and it would be nice to be more comfortable in those situations.
I do, however, find that 1 on 1 communication is more comfortable and way more personal. Often times, I find it easier for me to talk to women than most men, however, many people can perceive this as trying to enter into a relationship and that kind of bugs me. It bugs me because when I find somebody that I can talk to that I know will listen and I talk with them often, this side chatter starts up of "Oh. What's going on there?" or "OOooOO. Look at Kacy." I realize that sometimes this can be in a kidding manner, but most of the time it is not. Can we not just have friends to talk to 1 on 1 and somewhat frequently that we know will be there to listen?
For now I am going with the 1 on 1 conversations and I've noticed that what I'm really looking for is just somebody to talk to. I want somebody to be there and to listen and to turn to even if I don't have anything of urgency to say. I want to know that I can talk to somebody about anything and not worry about how they think of me and that I can turn to them for my very deepest of secrets.
I do have a few friends like that and I am more than greatful for this wonderful blessing. I guess it seems that more lately than not, some of these friends are getting busy and cannot seem to find time to sit down and chat. I am a little sad about this.
My friends, my brothers and sisters in Christ, I urge you to look at how you communicate with others and why. Do you avoid 1 on 1 conversations because they seem awkward and you feel you have nothing to contribute? Do you avoid groups because you fear of how people will think of you based on what you have to say? I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to try to break your comfort boundaries and become comfortable with both ways. Inevitably, you will be put in both positions and it is good to know how to interact on both levels.
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So, if you place yourself in awkward situations often enough, do they become less awkward or do they push you to become even more introverted?
Maybe I’m going about this the wrong way. I figure that if I build my relationship with God, then he will transform me into a more Christ like person and therefore a better communicator. Perhaps a combination of both methods is necessary. We should sit down and talk about it sometime… :-)
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